“Resentment and bitterness build the cage that only punishes ourselves.”
― Jeffrey Fry
Someone hurts you. Maybe something said or an action against you. You feel the sting deep in the depths of your soul. You might ask yourself “What did I do to you?” or “Why me?” Feelings of resentment sink in and sometimes they get embedded so deep you actually forget about it, but it is there like a dark cloud waiting to pour.
We can take a shovel and bury it and walk away, thinking we have gotten over the hurt. Days, months and even years might pass, then… without warning… something happens that brings that hurt and resentment rising like an overly active volcano. Bitter feelings towards the person or persons that caused your hurt, bitter feelings towards yourself for thinking you were over it and allowing it to resurface.
Been there, done that. Truthfully, I was more upset with myself for letting that dark cloud linger, not over me but inside.
What can we do? First off, I am not looking through goody two shoe, rose colored glasses and not naivety. There are some wounds inflicted that leave us visibly and invisibly scarred. There are some situations in which we must heal by letting go and moving on. It is possible. We cannot let resentment fester inside. It is poisonous. If you know in your heart that you are not the cause of someone’s negative actions towards you, then you have to stand taller than them, believing in you and your character. Resentment, bitterness, holding grudges, only weigh you down and keep your life heavy. Dead legs are hard to walk with, especially carrying all that.