We carry good things and bad things with us throughout life. One of the difficulties is in letting go of the bad. I know there are some hurts which can mark us forever but there are a lot of things we can and should let go of instead of towing them around with us.
Is it easy? Not all the time, but it is doable. We need to cleanse ourselves of bitterness, disappointments, resentment, jealousy, low esteem, comparison and a laundry list of reactions and behaviors that only slow us down in living a forward moving life. There is no need to drag these things around, constantly wasting precious brain power on them.
You see a tow truck pulling a car around that is either not running properly or that is headed for the auto graveyard. I’m sure that even though a tow truck was built for such tasks, our mind, heart and body were not made to be weighed down by heavy thoughts, emotions and feelings. We need to learn to release.
First off, forgive yourself for not being perfect. Who the heck is? Also there is no need to demonstrate how strong and stoic you are. When you’ve been hurt, it is of no use to you to show you are an invincible rock that cannot be penetrated. You are human. Forgiving others is not saying I give you the stamp of approval to screw me over, rather you are saying I’m not going to let you deter my seeking the best possible life that I can live.
Second, let it go. Let go of all the shit that has been lingering deep inside you. All of the nonsense that tries to tell you that you’re not good for this or that. The voice that plays a recording of past failures or shortcomings, past heartbreaks, feelings of inadequacy, self induced mind games that have you thinking in circles without actually gaining any insight. Let go of trying to be a people pleaser, taking a backseat to everyone else’s demands and at times needs if they can do it themselves.
Third, just breathe. Each morning, breathe, give thanks and get up and live. For some of us it could be worse, much worse. I look at those who are in a tougher predicament than myself and know things could be worse. Let’s try less stress and more life. Unhook your heavy load.
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